David Kach Counseling

Thinking of separation or divorce?

We’ll find what works to sort things out,

with fewer frayed nerves and loose ends.

Then you can live life to max,

without giving satisfaction the ax.

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We all wear masks. In a way, the best part about Halloween is that everyone knows it. You know it; others know it. Essentially you’re being honest with others, and they’re being honest with you. Also, because you know it, you’re being honest with yourself.

A costume is also a type of mask. A cop wears a uniform to assert an aura of authority. We dress for success to present a sense of business savvy. Similarly, we put on shorts and flip-flops to convey a sense of play.

There’s nothing wrong with dressing the part. We wouldn’t wear a suit to the beach. Likewise, a uniformed cop might be more effective than a plainclothes one. Yet, it can be a real problem when we create an image to mask who we really are.

We are born to seek satisfaction, be productive and optimistic.

Yet somehow, life always gets in the way. Or so it seems.

That’s because we’re largely unaware of how profoundly our upbringing inherently influences our thinking, our choices, and their outcomes.

With warm, open and responsive therapy, you can gain the insight into yourself that lets you live more realistically.

So you can attain success and fulfillment, and enjoy it all along the way.

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Sadness. We’ve all felt it sometimes in our lives.

Yet, what if you felt it most of the time?
A deep, ceaseless sadness that seems to sap your strength of spirit.

Sadly, that’s not as uncommon as you think.
Because like so many things, people learn to hide it well.
And cycle in and out of the shadows of sorrow.

So, if you know someone suffering with that, contact me.

We’ll work together to draw him or her up
from the dark well of sadness into the shining light.

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Feeling stressed these days?

Not surprising. Lots of distressing things are happening around us.

Yet, how we let them affect us is essentially an externalization of our psychology.

While we can’t control some things, we can manage our reactions to them,
so they don’t degrade our state of mind.

With effective therapy you can focus on the things you can change,
and stop obsessing about the things you can’t.

So you won’t sweat the other stuff, and can work on what really matters.

Then, you can lead a less stressful, and more successful life.

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Manic, Depressive, Bipolar, OCD. These are all serious diagnoses.
Yet, that’s exactly what they are: diagnoses based on symptoms.
While medication can relieve the symptoms, it often doesn’t resolve the cause.

That’s what psychotherapy does.
It helps people understand the unconscious ideas driving their actions,
so they can achieve positive and lasting changes in their lives,
for their own good, and for the good of those in it.

So, if you think you’re in need of effective treatment, do contact me.

I understand the challenges, and work on my own well-being every day.

So that therapy is about helping you, and not about me.

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Let’s face it, people have a lot of problems.

They struggle, but can’t seem to get a handle on them.

I want to help them, so they don’t have to suffer.

So if you feel like that, do contact me.

We’ll work through the issues to ease your pain.

So you can embrace a life of productivity, satisfaction and contentment.

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Did you know we regress a thousand times a day?

Mostly it’s momentary, and we return to reality right away.

Yet, what if they get longer and longer, and blur into one unending regression?
Then, we’re really drifting into troubled waters.

Together we’ll chart a clear course, so you can navigate the rough stretches.

And instead of feeling up a creek without a paddle,
you can chart a course to contentment and success.

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What is love anyway?

The best definition I’ve come up with is:
When one person wants the satisfaction of the other as much as their own.
Not more; that’s narcissistic. Not less; that’s masochistic.

Pretty simple. Yet pretty hard to achieve.
Because we’re often so clueless to ourselves.
And can’t see the forest for the trees.

So what is a person to do?

Together, we can help you quietly clear a field of contentment.
Instead of whacking in the weeds, until you feel hopelessly lost in the woods.

And that’s especially important for all of us now.

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We would like to think that we live our lives in the real world. Yet, in reality, that’s not the case. Everything out there that we take in through our senses is filtered and interpreted through our individual psychology. In the process, we put our own spin on it all, one that strongly influences our feelings, our thoughts, our words, and of course, our actions.

Our psychology takes shape much like our native language; we internalize what’s around us. So communicating – and relating with others– is almost second nature. That saves a lot of mental overhead. Yet, it also means that a lot of what we think depends on our early upbringing.

The prospect of marriage is all too often overwhelmed
by the Disney delusion of happily ever after.

Because after that fantastic fling of a wedding,
it turns out there’s basically everyday life.

And the fairy dust is nowhere to be found.

Still, you’ve got the rest of your lives ahead of you.

And wouldn’t you rather be calmly contented, than distressingly discontented?

So if you’re faced with that dilemma, contact me.

We’ll work on getting through all that.

So you can keep on having a satisfying time.

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It’s a defense we developed in a well-meaning but unaware family.
And it’s really a sad waste.

Yet there’s nothing to be ashamed of. That’s just human.
And if you could see the reality of it all, you wouldn’t feel depressed.

That’s what psychotherapy can do. Help you dismiss that defense,
so you won’t feel deflated about things that don’t matter.
And can feel elated about the things that do.

Together, we can get to the heart of the matter.
So you stop feeling sad, start being glad.

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Basically, it’s not meeting up to your fantasy of yourself,
or someone else’s fantasy of you.

We all feel it sometimes.

Yet, some of us really suffer with it.

And they’ll never get better until they take action.

Therapy can show you a better way of approaching life.
So you don’t have to feel that painful sting of shame.

You’ll see that there’s really nothing to be ashamed of, even of therapy itself.

And that to do any less for youself would really be a crying shame.

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Pregnancy promotes expectations in most future moms.
Ones that could feel dashed by the reality of motherhood,
and lead to postpartum depression.

And that can undercut the unconditional love so needed
for the healthy development of any infant.

The best way to ensure mental well-being in your child is from the start.
Which can help everyone down the road.

Patient, interactive therapy can help you sort out what’s real from fond ideals
so you don’t get ahead of the situation, and your infant’s potential.

And can set them on the road to a productive, satisfying and successful life.

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No kidding.

It can be a time when our ego retreats in order to repair its relationship to reality.
So we can re-emerge stronger and more sensible in our thoughts,
and in our actions.

But what if you’re stuck.

We’ll work together to help you get through the tough times,
and take advantage of the good ones.

Then, you’ll be able to progress, rather than regress.

Some folks feel like real losers, when in reality they’re not.

They’ve just been blinded by folks who think they’re real winners, when in reality they’re not.

Effective therapy can help folks see that in a world of who’s up and who’s down what really matters is not what others think of you, but who you know you are.

Then, you can pursue life with a zest that puts you miles ahead of the rest.

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Love. . . Writers write about it. Crooners croon about it.
It’s been romanticized, aggrandized, and commoditized.

We seek it. We feel we’ve found it. Often to see it sadly slip away.

Who can you turn to? Who can you talk to? Who will understand?

We’ll work to quietly help you learn to love another, as well as yourself.

And steadily shed the spectre of unrequited love.

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And that’s good.

Yet sometimes, we don’t follow through with them. And then we feel bad.

So why don’t we live up to them?

Because they’re just the tip of the iceberg.

What drives the drift of our thoughts is our underlying orientation.
And that often leaves us treading water.

Because those intentions are sentiments, and at odds with our motivations.

And those are the parts that often get overlooked when we ask ourselves why.

Yet, firmly focused therapy can help you set your sights on smooth sailing,
and shake that sense of rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic.

So instead of feeling you’re frantically foundering,
you can press forward full steam ahead.

And not only can you live up to those intentions,
but live them with robust optimism, and real satisfaction and contentment.

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A dramatic reaction we learned from a clueless upbringing.
But it really doesn’t work.

Now there’s nothing to be ashamed of. That’s just human.

Yet, if you could see the reality of a situation, you wouldn’t get angry.

That’s what psychotherapy can do.

Help you dismiss those angry reactions,

so you won’t be angry about what doesn’t really matter.

And can focus on what really does.

Together, we’ll find ways you can turn down the temperature.

So you can stop stewing and start living.

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Folks often think they’re depressed. But they only feel deflated.

Usually because they feel life is not meeting up to their expectations,
or they’re not meeting up to their own.

And usually, it’s not true.

In your therapy, we’ll work to see there’s often little to feel deflated about.

And that to do anything less would be really distressing.

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It’s about relating. It’s about interacting, about creating an authentic connection, about understanding — and learning. If a therapist basically sits there, listens and then unloads advice at the end, he or she is not doing their job. Therapy is a process of collaboration. It’s a journey that patient and therapist embark upon together. In addition, the insights a patient takes to heart along the way can become the arc towards a more satisfying life.

Although talking may be the medium for developing a therapeutic understanding, there’s much more going on.

What does therapy have to do with business?

Well, everything.

Your psychology dictates how you relate, act, and react to the world around you.
In work, in play, and in love.

And wouldn’t you rather have satisfaction and success,
than disappointment and distress?

I have the training, the therapy, the experience — and thirty years in the business world.

So I understand what matters most to my patients.

And can guide them to a more pleasing and productive place.

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Ah, Thanksgiving. Turkey. Trimmings. The family gathered ‘round in good cheer and loving harmony. Well, maybe that’s not how it usually goes.

Even if it’s taking place virtually, that doesn’t mean absence will make the heart grow any fonder, or that emotions will be dialed down by distance. Likewise, just because you’re out of reach in an online feast doesn’t mean you can’t be touched. Indeed, your more determined kin may well feel even more emboldened to land a few virtual sucker punches in cyberspace.

All balled up about tying the knot, or not?

We’ll work out ways to sort out the tangle

of commitment and compatibility.

So you can seek sustainable satisfaction

over uncertain security.

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Did you know that psychotherapy can be fun?

Sure, we’re dealing with some serious stuff.

Yet, laughter is a great way to relate.

And relating is a great way to work through the problems we face.

So if you’re seeking some cosmic relief, let’s work together

to cut through the bull, and cut to the chase.

So you can live on the side of satisfaction, and have a darn good time.

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It takes a lot of courage to accept that you need help.

That you can’t figure it all out yourself when you think you should.

But that’s just being human.

Because there’s so much inside our heads we’re unaware of that influences our thoughts, our actions, and their consequences.

Yet, kind and patient therapy can help you work things out. So you can achieve success and satisfaction, and feel good about it all.

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So, do you have to be crazy to seek therapy?

Absolutely not.

In fact, the best time to start is before you go down the rabbit hole. So you won’t have to claw you’re way out.

Consistent psychotherapy can help folks seize the reins of their psychology.

So they can steer their lives toward action and satisfaction.

And seize the day, if not win it as well.

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Postpartum depression is often attributed to hormonal changes beyond our control.

Yet, that’s not necessarily the whole picture.

Because we don’t appreciate how self-centered we are,
and that there’s no reason to be ashamed of being so human.

The reality is that we spend our lives doing pretty much what we want.
And then suddenly, we can’t.
Because this wondrous being we’ve created needs us,
and will need us for years to come.

And that can be more than a bit overwhelming.

Yet, with patient and understanding therapy we can open our minds to the often endless needs of our dependent infants.

And give them the unreserved love that leads to a fruitful, independent and related life.

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Yet, what really wallops us is the way we’ve been taught to react to it.
And that’s the biggest frustration of all.

Now, there’s nothing to be ashamed of. Success is all about failure.
The biggest problem is keeping your eye on the prize.

That’s what therapy can do. Help you understand failure as a part of life.
So your reactions won’t sabotage the reality.

And you won’t waste time wallowing, but spend it succeeding.

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Worry is useless. An exaggerated reaction we learned from well-meaning but misinformed family. But it doesn’t work.

Now there’s nothing to be ashamed of. That’s just human. Yet imagine if you could see the reality of it all. You wouldn’t worry.

That’s what psychotherapy can do. Help you take control of your worried reactions, and not worry about what you can’t control.

What I bring to the table is training, experience, and my own therapy. So I can help my patients worry less, and live more.

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Basically, it’s a symptom of underlying psychic conflict.

You can treat OCD with such techniques as cognitive behavioral therapy,
and get regular relief.

But that’s just scratching the surface.
And the conflict will rear its head again and again
in some other way.

Because topical treatment is not a cure.
We’ll work toward solving the conflict at the source.

Then, you can finally achieve real peace of mind.

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People often ask, “What does therapy have to do with business?”

Well, everything.

Your psychology dictates how you relate, how you act, and how you react to the world around you.

Because it’s really what’s inside of us that determines what’s outside for us, rather than the other way around. In work, in play, and in love.

And wouldn’t you rather have satisfaction and success, than disappointment and distress?

I have the training, the therapy, the experience — and thirty years in the business world.

So I understand how to help people move from distress to success.

And I understand that your therapy is about you, and not about me.

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