Counseling & Psychotherapy
How we can work together.
There is no best method of treatment in counseling and psychotherapy. Basically, it’s what works for you: What works well for helping you deal with your existing problems; what works better for helping you deal with the underlying causes of those problems; and what works most consistently in building solid insight into your psychology. So you can live a realistic life of enthusiasm and satisfaction that springs from confidently working through whatever living brings your way.
How counseling and therapy differ.
Counseling is generally a shorter term therapy in which we’ll work through your immediate problems, so you can achieve personal and professional goals. Psychotherapy allows us to work through your specific psychology, which underpins those problems, blunts your enthusiasm, and stymies your satisfaction with life.
The two are not mutually exclusive: In counseling, we seek to understand your underlying psychology, so that problem-solving is not a one-shot deal. In longer-term psychotherapy, we regularly work to solve immediate problems and challenges as well, so you can feel better. Yet, we also continue working through all those aspects of your psychology that keep you from feeling the consistent optimism and sense of accomplishment that flow from a satisfying life.
Individual counseling and therapy
Individual treatment is the heart of the matter for all of us. In the end, we are separate and unique beings, our brains bounded by our bodies and our minds dependent on our senses for the faintest idea of what’s going on out there in the world around us: In what we call reality.
We’ve all in been schooled in how to deal with reality from birth. Yet, we don’t even realize how much we’re influenced by what we’ve been taught by example before we were able to put together what’s out there for ourselves. In some ways, all of us have been well-schooled, and in some ways not so well. Nobody’s perfect.
Still, even though our upbringing influences our thoughts, our words, our actions and our character more than we could ever imagine, our capacity to influence all that is greater than we would generally imagine as well. In other words, we can learn. We can change our minds.
Teasing all that out takes a lot of thought and patience, a lot of trial and error, a lot of setbacks and successes, a lot of improvisation . . . and a lot of guts. That’s where individual therapy especially can help. And in the end, it’s worth it for all those moments of confidence and clarity that can help us improve the rest of our lives.
That few of us can do so wholly on their own is no failing. In fact, it’s normal. Yet, in the process of psychotherapy, we can create a new relatedness to others, and to the world around us, that is a potent source of strength, satisfaction, and of meaning in itself.
Relationship counseling
A strong and satisfying relationship is a reality that most of us seek: A state of mind that allows us to be unequivocally together, and yet feel fully ourselves at the same time. I’ve come to term that mutual state of mind shared independence. Each person’s relatedness to the other is rooted in the mutual reality of who both of them are, whether together or apart. Then, we’ll desire our partner’s satisfaction and contentment as much as we desire the same for ourselves: Not more, which could be masochistic; not less, which could be unhealthily narcissistic.
Of course, achieving that state of mental equilibrium is not an easy task. We all could use some help seeing the proverbial forest for the trees. And we’re all too often drawn to the fantastical wish that there actually is a happily ever after.
Yet, any relationship is no more a static state than we are static beings. Our individual situations are changing all the time, and our relationships are as well, even if there is are underlying cores of psychologies that shapes its reality.
Relationship, family or couples counseling can help all those involved in the relationship develop a dynamic and optimistic sense of relatedness, whether during dating, pre-engagement, pre-marriage, marriage, divorce, or family life. Such counseling can involve all parties together, individually, or in the most useful combination of the two.
Let’s get started.
Waiting until things feel worse could make our work all the harder. Yet, taking the initiative feels hard. After all, it’s taken your whole life to get to that unhappy place, so it’s not surprising that it takes courage to take the steps to change what seems all too uncomfortably to be the way things will always be. Still, it doesn’t have to be that way. Life actually can be better than you think.
Call me at 646-670-8172, email me at David@DavidKachCounseling.com, or fill out the form on the Contact page. Generally, I’ll get back to you within 24 hours.
So let’s get together and discuss how we can work toward helping you live a more productive and satisfying life.
How we can work together.
There is no best method of treatment in counseling and therapy. It’s basically what works for you: What works well for helping you deal with your existing problems; what works better for helping you deal with the underlying causes of those problems; and what works most consistently in building solid insight into your psychology. So you can live a realistic life of enthusiasm and satisfaction that springs from confidently working through whatever living brings your way.
How counseling and therapy differ.
Counseling is generally a shorter term therapy in which we’ll work through your immediate problems, so you can achieve personal and professional goals. Psychotherapy allows us to work through your specific psychology, which underpins those problems, blunts your enthusiasm, and stymies your satisfaction with life.
The two are not mutually exclusive: In counseling, we seek to understand your underlying psychology, so that problem-solving is not a one-shot deal. In longer-term psychotherapy, we regularly work to solve immediate problems and challenges as well, so you can feel better and continue working through the aspects of your psychology that keep you from feeling the optimism and sense of accomplishment that flow from a satisfying life.
Individual counseling and therapy
Individual treatment is the heart of the matter for all of us. In the end, we are separate and unique beings, our brain bounded by our bodies and our mind dependent on our senses for the faintest idea of what’s going on out there in the world around us, in what we call reality.
We’ve all in been schooled in how to deal with reality from birth. Yet, we don’t even realize how much we’re influenced by what we’ve been taught by example before we were able to put together what’s out there for ourselves. In some ways, all of us have been well-schooled, and in some ways not so well. Nobody’s perfect.
Still, even though our upbringing influences our thoughts, our words, our actions and our character more than we could ever imagine, our capacity to influence all that is greater than we would generally imagine as well. In other words, we can learn. We can change our minds.
Teasing all that out takes a lot of thought and patience, a lot of trial and error, a lot of setbacks and successes, a lot of improvisation, and a lot of guts. And that’s where individual therapy especially can help. And in the end, it’s worth it for those moments of confidence and clarity that can help us improve the rest of our lives.
That few of us can do so wholly on their own is no failing. For in the process of therapy, we can also create a relatedness to others, and to the world around us, that is a source of strength, satisfaction, and of meaning in itself.
Relationship counseling
A strong and satisfying relationship is a reality that most of us seek: A state of mind that allows us to be unequivocally together, and yet feel fully ourselves at the same time. I’ve come to term that mutual state of mind shared independence. Each person’s relatedness to the other is rooted in the reality of who both of them are, whether together and apart. We also desire our partner’s satisfaction and contentment, as much as we desire the same for ourselves: Not more, which could be masochistic; not less, which could be unhealthily narcissistic.
Of course, achieving that state of mental equilibrium is not an easy task. We all could use some help seeing the proverbial forest for the trees. And we’re often drawn to the fantastical wish that there actually is a happily ever after.
Yet, any relationship is no more a static state, than we are static beings. Our individual situation is changing all the time, and our relationships are as well, even if there is an underlying core of psychologies that shapes their reality.
Counseling can help all those involved in a relationship develop a dynamic and optimistic sense of relatedness, whether during dating, pre-engagement, pre-marriage, marriage, divorce, or family life. Such counseling can involve all parties together, individually, or in a useful combination of the two.
So let’s get started.
Waiting until things feel worse could make our work all the harder. Taking the initiative feels hard. Yet, it’s taken your whole life to get to an unhappy place, so it’s not surprising that it takes courage to take the steps to change what seems all too uncomfortably to be the way things will always be. It doesn’t have to be that way. Life actually can be better than you think.
Call me at 646-670-8172, email me at David@DavidKachCounseling.com, or fill out the form on the Contact page. Generally, I’ll get back to you within 24 hours.
Let’s get together and discuss how we can work toward helping you live a more satisfying life.